The Attendants

Most wedding couples select friends that have been in their life for a long time to be their Bridesmaids and Groomsmen and some choose distinct family members. Whichever you choose, make sure they know what is required and are willing to go above board to make your day stress free. Many a friendships have been broken during this time of planning and they always will. I have been in the middle of arguments with brides and their maids when problems arise from the bride's selection of dresses. Note: This day belongs to the Bride & Groom not the MOH!  Instead of calling up your BFF to tell her she is your MOH, why not send her a card and give her time to think. A written request says a lot.

Now, how many attendants do you need? Not how many friends you have.  So many bride& groom end up with too many attendants that the altar cannot accommodate them. The reason I have been given -"I have to make Suze a bridesmaid or she will never speak to me again"  Not good.  If you have to do something to satisfy someone else, you are looking for trouble. Believe me, you do not need 8 bridesmaids & groomsmen; 2 Junior Bridesmaids; 3 flower girls and 1 ring bearer. That's 22 + the Bride & Groom at the altar, in a limo, in a photo, at a table!  Another note: These 22 are also counted as guests and if you can only feed 100 people you can only invite 78 others. Do the math.